Nikki de Ocampo | This Baby Chose Me

We were in a washroom inside our friend’s kickboxing studio, waiting for the result… I looked, and there was one thick line and one very faint line. What does that mean?!?! My friend Brit looked at me and said, “babe, you’re pregnant”.

My life literally flashed before my eyes. Am I ready for this? How will I go to school? I have no money saved… how will I be able to provide for my child? What will my parents say? They haven’t even met my partner yet! So many questions filled up my mind. I took a deep breath and decided to go to the doctor’s office to get confirmation.

The doctor held up the strip and said, “You’re pregnant!”

I sat there, speechless… Then a big smile came onto my face, and my entire body lit up. I thought to myself, “this baby chose me.”

Over the next few weeks, I had to figure out my entire life. I was accepted into the Canadian College of Naturopathic Medicine, which was starting in a few months. I had to tell my parents and figure out if I would move in with my partner. We had just got together a couple of months prior… and you’d think, “whoa, you guys rushed into things!” but in reality, it couldn’t feel more perfect.

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I didn’t end up going to naturopathic medicine school, and my mom didn’t talk to me or see me until I was over 6 months pregnant. I struggled mentally throughout the first couple of months of my pregnancy, not knowing if my mom would ever accept my child or my partner.

This also instilled the thought of not being able to connect and bond with my own daughter – which was (and still is) my biggest fear. I struggled to accept the fact that I wasn’t going to be the doctor I wanted to be.

There were so many things I could have stressed about, but instead, I chose to focus on the positive. My partner was supportive, loving, and beyond excited to have our baby. My cousins and friends were also supportive, which helped a lot.

I chose to focus on what I could control in my life. My mental health, my physical health, and the relationships that were present and thriving. I continued to do what I love – move, eat, coach, and connect with others.

I had just finished running my first 10km race, and I was in the best shape of my life. I grew to love my body, throughout every stage of pregnancy. The stretch marks, the weight gain, all of it.

Throughout my pregnancy, I did whatever made me feel good. There are so many resources that tell you what you should and shouldn’t do throughout pregnancy, but my biggest piece of advice for all moms-to-be is to listen to your body. If I was doing something that didn’t feel right, I stopped. If I was doing something that felt amazing, then I kept doing it! So the top three things on my list that I did every day were: move my body, meditate, and eat a nourishing meal. These three things kept me physically, mentally, and spiritually well. 

One thing I wish I knew more about in pregnancy and postpartum is the specific nutrients my body needed. I had no clue there were specific foods and supplements that would enhance mine and my baby’s health! I did however focus on eating whole foods as much as possible, staying hydrated, and only having one Big Mac per week (LOL, that was my craving!).

If you are going through pregnancy, postpartum, or any stage of motherhood and you feel completely lost, know that you’re not the only one – and there are ways to feel better mentally and physically! Working on your health and wellness is a never-ending journey, and it is so underrated when it comes to motherhood.

Putting yourself first throughout pregnancy will allow you to continue that habit postpartum, which is important for your mental health. Make time for yourself, move your body, eat nourishing foods, and give your mind a break.

Once you have these down pat, you’ll realize that they are the key to becoming a better mother, partner, sister, and overall human. Don’t underestimate the power of prioritizing your health and wellness.

My name is Nikki de Ocampo, and I specialize in helping moms feel their best with movement, nutrition, and energy healing. If you’re ready to put your health and wellness first, book a discovery call to work with me or follow my page @holistnik for more motherhood wellness tips and education!